You’ve plastered your best smile on your face and you think you’ve mastered the art of flirting. So why is it that you have one heck of a hard time attracting a date? And once you do have a date, there’s no second date! In a word, desperation.
Nothing turns off potential daters faster than appearing so desperate for a date that you’ll do almost anything to get one. In extreme cases, dating desperation can seem almost creepy. At best it’s just kind of sad.
As with most things in life, when you try too hard to succeed at something, you end up failing. Just like you can’t force that white ball onto the green, you can’t force someone to fall for you; it usually just happens on its own. When you appear desperate for a date the only thing potential dates will feel is pressure, not desire.
Those little white lies you tell in the hopes of appearing more attractive to someone are going to end up biting you in the butt sooner or later, so you might as well stop telling them. Potential daters will be able to tell, deep down, that you’re lying and along with appearing desperate, you’ll come across as insincere.
As a desperate dater, you want potential dates to like you. So you end up agreeing with everything they say and come off looking like a bobblehead doll what with all the nodding you’re doing! There’s nothing wrong with polite disagreement! That’s what good conversation is made off, and gives you each the chance to learn about each other.
No one is going to want to date you if you let them walk all over you. Doormats are for entrance ways, not for dating! Showing potential dates that you won’t tolerate shoddy treatment like them showing up late or not at all makes it clear that you respect yourself, and expect to be treated accordingly.
Do you think you have to sleep with someone in order for them to stick around, even though you don’t think you’re ready? Sleeping with someone before you’re ready is a sure sign of desperation. If you date decides to drop you if you won’t sleep with him/her, then just let them!
It comes down to this; if you’ll date anything with a pulse, you’ll come across as a desperate dater. Do yourself a favor and take some time off. Get comfortable with yourself. Then, and only then, should you pursue dating.